Ask Rev. Kev Your Questions Answered by Reverend Kevin E. Taylor, author of Unclutter Question 4: What is love? What do you do when you have a lover that is very possessive and always thinks that you are doing something? Wow. What a powerful and thought-provoking question. If we go to the dictionary searching for a foundation of understanding, then Love is: "A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness." Love, from my perception, is about the Act of caring for someone, intimately and intentionally. As a question directly dealing with your present lover and clearly wondering if her action's ARE love and representation thereof--Nothing about love is possessive. Nothing about love is territorial. Your lover clearly has feelings of fear and concern about IF you her, which probably means that she is wondering WHY you love her. I have said to many a person that if you seek to love someone who doesn't love themselves, one of the two of you is a liar, and the person with whom you are dealing has had more time with themselves and their lack of love than with you. So, as you and your partner/lover try to move forward in your relationship, you will have to be thoughtful and clear about expressing your love in a way that feels like love for you each. The Bible says that "Love is patient. Love is kind. Love isn't puffed up and doesn't need its own way." 1 Corinthians 13 really speaks to love, so read that and let it speak to your heart! LOVE MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD AND FEEL JOY AND FEEL WANTED. If those feelings don't come up for you when someone says I LOVE YOU, then it may be something affectionate, but it probably isn't love. I will keep you in prayer!!! Book Review | Visit kevinetaylor.com | Order Book Go Back